Two Magic Words that
improve relationships FAST!
By Harriet Meyerson
Are some of your work or personal relationships frustrating? Here's an
instant solution. At home or on the job, you can improve your
relationships with these two magic words.
THE MAGIC WORDS
The magic is in these two simple words, "I appreciate."
These two magic words will make others feel close to you and create loyal
relationships.
Don't be like the husband who told his wife on their wedding day,
"I'm telling you now that I love you, and if that ever changes, I'll
let you know." To have great relationships you must continually let
people know that you care about them and appreciate them.
APPRECIATION - THE KEY TO GREAT RELATIONSHIPS
Wouldn't you like a little more appreciation? Everyone does! People crave
appreciation. Nobody ever gets enough, and the most difficult people
hardly get any at all. Saying, "I appreciate", or "Thank
you" is the easiest thing you can do to improve your
relationships - FAST.
LITTLE THINGS MEAN A LOT
Obviously, you know to say "Thank you" when someone gives
you a gift or does something special for you. However, if you're seriously
interested in improving your relationships, you need to let people know
how much you appreciate things that are not special. These are the things
that we just take for granted because people are supposed to do them
anyway.
Start today by saying, "I appreciate" for all those little
things. Making a simple phone call, or writing a short note only takes a
minute or two.
To your co-worker say, "I appreciate your pleasant smile. It makes
me look forward to coming to work."
To your husband say, "I appreciate your taking out the trash, and
helping the kids with their homework, etc."
THE APPRECIATION MAGNET
Appreciation makes people feel valued, and accepted. These powerful
attributes act like a magnet to attract people to you and make them trust
you.
HOW YOU WILL BENEFIT
Just think of all the benefits you can get simply by saying, "I
appreciate."
- You will feel happier because you are focusing on how others are
making your life better, not on their shortcomings.
- You will feel more successful because, even though your life is not
perfect, you will be living with an attitude of gratitude for what you
have now.
- You will be creating an atmosphere of acceptance both at work and at
home.
- You will receive more cooperation from co-workers, and family.
- You will receive more appreciation for yourself in return.
GET CREATIVE
If it makes such a difference why don't more people show their
appreciation? It's probably because most people consider writing thank you
notes a chore. Instead, here's how you can have fun - get creative.
- Cover your thank you letters with the word "Thank You" in
different sizes and fonts.
- Make your own colorful thank you cards
- Give decorated "Thank You" cookies
- Buy thank you gifts at the toy store
- Write a poem.
- Send a quote
- Along with your thank you note include a joke
- Bake your favorite dessert and include the recipe in your
gift.
- Give chocolate Kisses
- Give a plant or flowers
To help you remember to express your appreciation often, make a list of
the people you want to thank. As you thank them, write their names on your
calendar. Do this each month and realize all the relationships you have
improved.
MAN-MADE SUNSHINE
Appreciation is like spreading man-made sunshine into the lives of those
who have, in some small way, made your life happier. They will, in turn,
spread this sunshine to others, just like tossing a pebble into the water
spreads ripples far and wide.
About the author: Harriet Meyerson, president of The
Confidence Center, works with companies that want confident, loyal, and
happy employees, and with individuals who want the confidence they need
for success. Harriet is a member of the National Speakers Association and
the author of Fire Up Your Staff on a Shoestring Budget.
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